But what does she need from her Dominant to get there? What does the container look like? I know that's what you teach and we have talked... I definitely am a slave who needs a container - and I give my best, most confident service in person, in a container where there is constant biofeedback and energy. I can serve long distance... But it feeds all my human weaknesses of insecurity and abandonment fears... And let's not forget the easy distraction of my AdHD attention span. In person, 24/7 TPE is effortless in comparison. So for me I know that I need continual contact to give faithful, continual service. Is it the same for everyone?
Many of my other writings here are about just that—what makes up the Dominant container.
I am sympathetic to your state. My submissive has the same psychological setup as you. We are long distance. But ritual, consistency, trust, faith (almost to a religious level) are key.
But what does she need from her Dominant to get there? What does the container look like? I know that's what you teach and we have talked... I definitely am a slave who needs a container - and I give my best, most confident service in person, in a container where there is constant biofeedback and energy. I can serve long distance... But it feeds all my human weaknesses of insecurity and abandonment fears... And let's not forget the easy distraction of my AdHD attention span. In person, 24/7 TPE is effortless in comparison. So for me I know that I need continual contact to give faithful, continual service. Is it the same for everyone?
Many of my other writings here are about just that—what makes up the Dominant container.
I am sympathetic to your state. My submissive has the same psychological setup as you. We are long distance. But ritual, consistency, trust, faith (almost to a religious level) are key.